My mom forwarded me an article that she read on MSN entitled: 7 Mistakes Even the Smartest Newlyweds Make over the weekend. Curious by the title, I had to click on it and see how my husband and I measured up. The consensus? We’re doing pretty good in some areas and need some help in others…
Newlywed Mistake #1: Not dealing with debt
Hmmm…We’re still trying to figure this one out. I’m sure you remember my post from eons ago asking for suggestions on how to budget our newlywed bank accounts. We still have yet to merge accounts. It’s a work-in-progress.
Newlywed Mistake #2: Alienating your friends
I would say that my husband and I have done a pretty good job of NOT alienating our friends since we’ve been married. I still have my “girls nights,” and he still has his “guys nights.” We also make time to hang out with each other, and/or we’ll go out with friends as a couple sometimes too.
Newlywed Mistake #3: Not having enough sex
Without getting into too much detail, I’ll just say we’ve had our ups and downs in this area, and leave it at that.
Newlywed Mistake #4: Letting yourself go
In this day and age, practically everyone in America is fighting the bulge. My husband and I are keeping ourselves in check to the best of our abilities at this point. Would we like to lose some weight? Sure, but we certainly haven’t let ourselves go.
Newlywed Mistake #5: Letting the in-laws become out-laws
I have to be honest, we both have our gripes about each others’ parents. After reading this article, I’m going to work on biting my tongue more.
Newlywed Mistake #6: Fighting Unfairly
My husband and I have had many fights over the 5-6 years we’ve known each other. One thing is for sure, those fights have evolved. Rarely do we take cheap shots at each other anymore, and if one of us does, the other one rightly puts him/her in his/her place. We’ve learned how to communicate better since being married. It’s not always just about being right. Sometimes, you have to pick and choose your battles. We’re not perfect, but we’re getting better at fighting.
Newlywed Mistake #7: Becoming obsessed with the next step – baby
So far, my husband and I have pretty much been on the same page with this one. We have our rare moments when we think it would be nice to have a baby, but most of the time, it’s a “not yet” kind of response.